| This brings me to TRUST. I feel like trust is something everyone's dealt with at one time or another. It's EASILY robbed from us. And we become "ok, I don't hurt, I'm tough. To shed a tear would mean I'm weak. No one does that!" I've seen men and women handle things themselves because no doubt somewhere along their life, trust was stolen. Someone or something hurt them very badly. So, it's easier to do things themselves. To be "in control."
One evening as I was getting ready to go home from work one of the very cool ladies that I work with said to me,
"Take care of yourself Nance, because nobody else will."
This statement made me sad for her. Something or someone has made her believe that philosophy.
A child trusts. It's beautiful. They KNOW someone is there - to "help carry the load, to pick up the pieces." They're not alone. Someone stronger than they will be right beside them.
I remember having nightmares as a child and climbing out of bed and standing at the top of our stairs calling out to my mom. She'd quickly come and hold me and then sleep with me until I fell back asleep. I knew she'd be there. I knew she'd come. She had never failed me in this.
A child is also vulnerable to let their emotions show. They cry when they hurt, laugh when happy, scream with excitement, tremble with fear, rub their eyes when they're tired, and let you KNOW when they're angry (man, do they ever). Yes, they're pretty good at communication. I believe this is key in life. It's my degree and I'm the worst at it!
SIMPLICITY. Not too much in the way of a complicated life here. I love how children keep "The Main Things" in mind. They're pretty open and accepting. There's no room for OVERANALYZING. I think this creates idleness. For example: I think it's easy for a child to LIKE themselves. Mmmmmm-this is good. Have you ever taken the time to watch how a child approves of what he or she has done? They're pretty proud of their accomplishments no matter how small. They get excited! They enjoy WHO they are. They accept things and with this I mean a child knows how to say "ok" and move on. Ok, so a child really can't get this deep, but I believe there is freedom with being decisive. I say this because as an adult I can struggle with things about myself frequently and ultimately it's me being pretty hard on myself. Sometimes I've literally had to say to myself "Move on. This is you. You've been down this road many times and it keeps you from moving ahead." I guess I love how simple a child makes life, making decisions based on what he or she knows to be true and not second guessing. A friend of mine told me this once "The Main Thing is: Keep the Main Thing, The Main Thing."
"Endless rational analysis substitutes for decisive commitment."
-Brennan Manning
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